By Buhlebenkosi Sibanda
It’s no secret that if you are not careful, planning a wedding can send you to an early grave. Before you even know it, you might find yourself in a hole that is not fun to be in. Therefore we approached one of our DO IT YOURSELF brides from the previous edition, Monica Molebatsi to have a vivid and close insight on ways one can deal with wedding stress.
- Pray about it
Monica suggested that first of all before any move or plan, ask God for guidance and trust him for direction when you feel overwhelmed as he never fails and wants the best for you. Also the prayers should align with your thoughts, thus advising positive thinking and attitude.
- Hire a wedding planner
In as much as wedding planners are costly, they are very effective and worth every penny. They are professionals in planning weddings and can guarantee you your dream wedding. Monica even admits that in as much as it is fascinating to plan your big day, it’s no child’s play and if you can, reach out to that wedding planner. Nadia Hosch even advised the future brides to wine and hire a wedding planner to avoid unnecessary stresses that might ruin the big day.
- Construct a to do list and stick to it
“I made a to do list months before the wedding and made it a goal to tick all the listed items before the wedding”, she said. This will help in making you think efficiently or act in a way that’s very good for your wellbeing and your wedding. Above all stick to the list to avoid confusion and mixing up of things.
- Ask for help and get enough sleep
Monica says she asked for help from those who were willing as it was not easy to handle everything alone. This is probably the best thing you can do for yourself in a stressful time like wedding planning because there are always people who love you and are willing to share the load with you. However Monica advises that in as much you can still get help, at the end of the day its your day and don’t let any one else dictate it for you, remember always its your wedding day not theirs. She also add on getting enough sleep as it is essential because the amount of sleep you get affects your whole mood.
- Stop comparisons
As the saying goes “comparison is the thief of all joy”, when we compare ourselves to what others have, or simply how they are, we are essentially making ourselves feel down right inadequate and deflated, with a low self-esteem to match. With social media being a platform to flaunt every aspect of our lives, Monica says it’s very important as a bride not to succumb to any luxurious social media feeds. Remember to be authentic and unique all the time and follow you own aspirations.