By Nobuhle Nleya
You’re planning the happiest day of your lives! Then it sinks in. You’re planning what’s meant to be the happiest day of your lives. But, what if it doesn’t live up to your expectations? What if everything goes wrong? What if no-one turns up? What if too many people turn up, and you have to tell somebody they aren’t even on the guestlist…
What if, what if, what if.
Knowing that you are left with a few days or hours till your wedding can freak you out or give you anxiety attacks. But be rest assured, knowing that having cold feet or wedding jitters is completely normal! Symptoms of nervousness and failing to sleep properly might be considered as few of the ‘signs’ of wedding jitters. Fortunately, below are a few tips one can consider implementing to help with wedding jitters.
Communicate with your fiancé/fiancée
It’s very important to speak your heart out with your partner. Air out your fears and concerns to them because this might relieve the burden you might be feeling. Taking time to also have heart-to-heart conversations with each other will also bring you back on the path of reminding each other why you want to get married to each other. This will not only grow your love but will also further build your foundation of trust.
Get some insight on how to deal with cold feet
Everyone who has started off the marriage journey must have felt the pre-wedding jitters and will be willing to share how they went about it. Talking to family members and friends about your concerns may help you to feel reassured.
Take some time to relax
Planning a wedding can be stressful. Therefore it’s very important to make sure that you take some time to relax. Make sure that you include days when you take some time off to breathe, watch a movie or spend the day at home. Doing something that you love, such as baking, dancing, will help you clear your mind and conscience hence calm the wedding jitters.
A bride is allowed to be bossy on her wedding day! It’s okay to delegate duties to family and friends, this will not only help things move more effectively but it will help reduce the pressure from you.
Replace negative feelings with positive thoughts.
Worried about the caterer? Second-guessing your decision to get married? It may not be easy to control or shut out these negative thoughts but it’s worth a try. Try replacing anxious thoughts with ones that “focus on love and celebration,” such as ‘I can’t wait to party with all my friends and family!’ Most brides and grooms opt to focus on how perfect they will look and the amazing atmosphere of being surrounded by their loved ones at the wedding.
All in all, expect only the best because you deserve the best. After all, weddings only tend to happen once therefore it’s important to maintain a positive attitude and mindset.